“The Best Christmas Gift Is To Realize How Much You Already Have.”
Christmas can be overwhelming.
The lights, festivities, mulled wine are all wonderful but the short days and long stints with family and friends can bring up a lot of insecurities and stress. Not exactly the festive cheer we get excited about as December rolls in.
Overwhelm is something I constantly see with my clients all year round but more so at Christmas and so these techniques have been discussed in a lot of sessions recently. Therefore I felt called to share these 4 techniques for you to experiment with over the holidays and into the new year!
Mine & Theirs Circles
When things feel heated with a family member and the stress levels are rising, find a moment alone and try this.
Take a piece of paper and draw two circles on each half of it. Label one as 'mine' and the other as 'theirs'.
Now spend a moment capturing all the emotions, thoughts, actions etc that belong to both yourself (mine) and the other person (theirs).
Once you feel it's complete (don't spend too long) tear the paper down the middle removing the 'theirs' circle. Throw it away.
Then look back at your circle and ask yourself; What is one small action I can take that is truly mine?
Perhaps it's apologising for something, perhaps it's taking a walk or using a favourite technique to process your emotions or perhaps it's nothing at all.
The holiday season is a great time to take a colour walk but you can use this technique all year round to build a little mindfulness into your day.
Head out on a walk and as you leave decide on one colour, any colour you like but as a beginner, I often suggest yellow or red.
Now your only focus for your walk is to spot the colour you have chosen. Your mind will wander, that normal but when you notice it has, come back to the colour asking, where can I see (red) at the moment? Have I missed any (yellow)?
You can stop after 5 minutes or keep it up for the whole walk depending on how you feel.
In the midst of the family, friends & work gatherings take a moment to mentally step back and observe the scene.
Silently to yourself point out all the things you are grateful for in this snapshot of time.
It could be the generous gifts, the family laughter, the free wine or the smell of Christmas cookies.
As a bonus why not go around the people and again silently share something you love about them, no matter how small.
Repeat as often as needed.
50 Things List
This one is great for boosting your self-worth, therefore taking you through the season with a smile on your face.
You want to gather a list of 50 words or snippets that highlight your strengths and ways you are amazing.
For example; loyal, good present buyer, considerate, great problem solver, fun, always making people laugh... etc
WARNING - This is not a task to complete in one 20-minute sitting. Set yourself a deadline of a few weeks away and keep the list close so that you really experience the benefits of being on the lookout each day for the ways in which you are wonderful.
Take what you need, leave what you don't and experiment away.
You are unique and the best tools for you are the ones you design to meet your uniqueness. And of course, I am always here to help.
Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and a fantastic New Year,